31 Things I Know Now That I’m 31: #9 — The Practice of Patience – Learning to Play the Long Game

In the #BloggerLife, I need to accept that success won’t come overnight. I’ve never been the best at exercising patience, but if I’m looking to build something that’ll last and make its mark on the world around it, I need to build it right, giving it whatever time and effort it needs to grow into something magnificent.

To this end, I often tell people I’m working with a 25-year plan. Oprah was around my age when she started the Oprah Winfrey Show in Chicago, a then-little known radio personality who producers were giving a shot with a regular TV time slot to build her audience. Through the decades that followed, she built that chance into the empire we know today, with millions clinging to her every word as she shares intimate moments with some of the most powerful and influential people known today!

That’s how I see my brand — something eventually growing beyond the bounds of a blog, letting me tell stories that people wouldn’t hear otherwise. Even in the moments where the momentum’s at a standstill, the Gmail inbox devoid of anything interesting and the brain struggling to come up with an original thought, I’m learning more and more that there’re only 24 hours every day, and with the few available to hustle on the side diminishing as I grow older, I need to appreciate what I did accomplish in a day — not lament the things I didn’t.

CONTINUE READING: When I asked myself why I was in such a rush and came up short for answers.

GIVEAWAY POST: #ThanksBaby — How Pampers Highlights the Finer Side of Fatherhood

In my world, June’s all about the Dads. Unlike Canadian Moms, unfortunate enough to celebrate Mother’s Day under the shadow of May 24’s looming promise (aka the first Canadian long weekend that isn’t cold, wet, or having anything else fall from the sky), June’s sorely lacking in anything distracting us from celebrating our fathers. And that’s a good thing too, because the very notion of fatherhood is changing — or should I say evolving — as we continue our way through the 21st century.

And it’s high time we recognize that!

CONTINUE READING: Some thoughts on fatherhood and a CONTEST from Pampers!

31 Things I Know Now That I’m 31: #8 — You Wouldn’t Like Me When I’m Angry

I’ve been running some numbers lately, and it occurred to me that I don’t have a whole lot of time if I want to get the last 24 entries of the 31 Things series done before my July 15th birthday, so it’s time to get to grind mode and see what I can do!

Truth be told, not everything’s been amazing lately. I’m not the type of blogger who pretends that everything’s peachy all the time — life isn’t perfect, and sometimes you’ll need to overcome obstacles just to keep your sanity.

It used to be so hard to rile me up. I’ve always been about finding solutions, not dwelling on problems, convinced that most of the stuff we fret over simply wasn’t worth the energy. I used to know the few times I’d lost my temper with someone who wasn’t family — the time I’d been wrongly accused of screwing something up at work and tasked to fix it. The time I felt a peer was disrespecting me and undermining my position — one I’d worked so hard to get. Cool, calm and collected were the only ways I wanted to be, and little could get under my skin.

But these days, there’s someone out there consistently bringing my ugly side to light. They don’t respect me or my time, constantly lording their power rather than work with me to get results. They’re a bully to the core, and I’m not the type to take it lightly.

31 Things I Know Now That I'm 31 #8 — You Wouldn't Like Me When I'm Angry — Angry Sketch of Doomz

I’d be a fool to think I could solve these problems overnight, though. You can’t change people — you can change how they perceive you, but don’t expect a foul-tempered peer to become your BFF if they don’t want to. I’ve learned, instead, that we need to find coping mechanisms when faced with these struggles, and knowing our individual worth doesn’t always quite cut it.

When I’m so clouded by rage that I can barely see straight, I pick up an old habit of mine and draw. Draw all my feelings, feel it all flow through my pen, and let it express the things that words don’t quite do justice. I don’t always finish, but I assure you — I often feel far better once I’ve gotten a piece out.

So the next time you’re mad, don’t fly off the handle — harness that rage and do something with it! I’ve heard people say they aren’t creative, or complain that they aren’t good enough, but that’s not the point. If you’re creating, you should create for you. When you express yourself, make sure what you’re creating meets your needs. It’s like oxygen masks on an airplane — if you can’t help yourself and make sure you’re getting what you need to live, how can you expect to help anybody else?

They say that you shouldn’t get mad — you should get even; what better revenge is there than showing the people who piss you off just how great you can be?

May your worst moments help bring your best ones to light!

Until the next, mi amigos,

–case p.

31 Things I Know Now That I’m 31: #7 — Find Your Mountaintop.

Everyone should have at least one experience that’s truly for themselves — something utterly indelible from their life story that lays the foundation for everything to happen from that point forward… the stuff of epiphanies. Too often, we take our lives for granted — too many of us have grown accustomed to having things simply handed to us, no longer fit to fight for anything we really want from our lives. We simply expect that water comes from the tap when we turn the faucet, or that the Internet will load blazingly fast when we use it. In the “developed world”, we’ve become soft. Lazy. Woefully complacent, quietly accepting mediocrity as our standard, not fighting for something more.

Me — I had to climb 19,000 feet to find my experience, my body beaten and battered, awash with the unfiltered rays of the sun as I realized something that’s spurred me forward ever since —

“If I can do this, I can do anything.”

CONTINUE READING: The power that climbing Africa’s tallest peak gave me to live a great life!

31 Things I Know Now That I’m 31: #6 — Push Past Your Limits!!!

I wish I could show people what it’s like in my head.

Though I don’t always produce by putting content out as often as my peers who have, let’s say, more time on their hands, the intent’s always there. The #BloggerLife’s constantly competing with the rest of my life, trying to find the time to thrive where, truthfully, not much exists. It’s news to no one that my time’s well-invested in parenting my son and supporting my wife — and that’s already outside of the full-time job that usually has me running around when I’d prefer to do otherwise. I’ve learned there’re things that people won’t let you say “no” to, wanting your skills and abilities for their purposes rather than see you strive for anything of your own. While my goals and objectives become clearer the more I grind, I feel like I haven’t done enough to push myself forward so I can meet them.

Something’s gotta change.

CONTINUE READING: Tired of feeling stuck as a blogger, I pledge to take things to the next level!

I'm not a blogger, I just talk a lot.

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